self-esteem 101

i've recently noticed that girls do check out other girls and most of the times, the comments are "omg, she's so pretty" or "i was i can look like that." yes, these are obtained by random sampling done by my ears. in a more sophisticated term called 'eavesdropping.' but that's not my point. the point is, these girls are categorized as having low self-confidence.

now i don't mean to offend anyone who are already having too much confidence, nor do i want to talk about those who already have too much confidence in this entry. what i want to address is those of you who don't have much confidence on yourself.

you think your face has a bunch of pimples on it. you think your hair is messed up. you think your belly is too big. you think your boobs aren't proportional with your ass. you think your skin is oily. you think your teeth aren't white enough. you think your teeth are perfect enough so you need braces. you think you smell. you think you're short. you think you're too shy. you think you're dumber than other people in your class. you think your index finger is longer than your middle finger. you think your toes look ugly. you think your arms and legs are hairy. you think you have flat boobs. you think you have flat ass. you think you have huge ass. you think glasses don't make you look hot. you think you have too much passion for food. you think your handwriting isn't neat. you think your hair doesn't look good with its natural color. you think having calluses on your fingertip from playing guitar is nasty. you think your clothes don't match. you think you don't have enough shoes to match your mood. you think you don't have enough belts to match your mood. you think you don't have enough underwears to match your mood. you think your clothes aren't colorful enough to reflect your personality. you think the lady next door layered your hair wrong. you think short hair looks cute but now that you have it short you're embarassed of it. you think your cellphone looks ugly because it's too big. you think your keyboard and mouse don't match the color of your PC. you think nobody wants you and you're never gonna marry anyone because you don't already have a boyfriend at this moment. you think your homework looks shorter than anyone else's. you think your eyelashes aren't curly enough. you think your eyebrows are too thick, you think your lips aren't shiny enough. you think guys don't think you're hot. you think everyone else is prettier than you.

i timed myself to list the things above. it took about 3 minutes, less maybe, and i did not stop once to think what i was going to write next. if i want to, i can even keep the list going.

you are pretty, you are beautiful just the way you are. do not envy others for having nicer skin, whiter or tanner than yours, skinny waist, firm boobs, nice ass, lovely hair, cute smile, longer eyelashes, thicker or thinner lips. you are perfect the way you are.

most guys aren't superficial as to having his preferences for a girl fixed on certain things. prefer, yes. but that's flexible. well, except for sam, but sam is not most guys, and who within the range of sanity would put "not human - must be an alien" as a requirement? guys don't care if your skin is oily and you have to put make up to cover it up; they barely even notice the oil on your skin. guys don't care whether your teeth look messed up; they have their eyes fixed on your boobs, not your teeth. guys don't care if your clothes don't match; after an hour they would forget what kind of clothes you're wearing, let alone the color. guys don't care if you tie your hair up, or down, or whether your hair is short, or long.

take my words: instead of focusing on the perfection of your look, focus on personality. personality is what matters the most. if you're hot, pretty, perfect in all aspect but just simply bitchy, that's not good. if you're smart AND hot but you're cocky, that ain't gonna do you any good either. you don't need to look beautiful on the outside. but you do have to be beautiful in the inside. this is a cliche, but i'll say it again and reinforce the fact that it is a cliche: inner-beauty lasts forever, diamonds don't. [hidden message] de beers lied to you [/hidden message]. if you're beautiful in the inside, even guys like sam will melt. well, ok, maybe not sam, he's a bad example since he seems to have a fetish for a hot bitchy alien that is just beyond helpless. my point is, no matter how imperfect you think you are, if you have beautiful personality, you're as perfect as you can be.

polishing the outside cannot add more beauty to something that is already beautiful in itself.

to everyone who reads this entry, you are beautiful, regardless of what you think of yourself.
and to those who are my friends, you are all beautiful; perfection has no meaning without your existence.